Want More Real Dates? …Say THIS to Him BEFORE Giving Him Your Phone Number

Lesson 33

If you wish to avoid men who might call or text you regularly but never ask you out, it’s important that you allude to your expectations of being asked out whenever a man does ask for your phone number. Your chance of dating a man who asks you out versus dating a man who texts you without a clear purpose might actually depend on the expectations you’ve set with your handsome admirer from the beginning. You see, if you tend to give out your phone number to men without making it clear as to what kind of woman they’re dealing with, you’re just making it super easy for guys to waste your time.

If you want to increase your chances of starting a romance with a self-assured man who can’t wait to see you again, playfully inform men of your expectations at the very moment they ask for your phone number. It doesn’t matter if you met him online or in-person. Be clear about what you want, but do so in a fun, flirty, and sassy way whenever a man wants your phone number to contact you in the future. You must be intentional from the beginning, as doing so will illustrate your high-value and it will also separate the boys from the men.

Here’s an example from Lalita and Theodore’s first meeting. These two recently met at a function and had a fun and lively conversation. After a few drinks, laughs, and subtle flirting, Theo feels confident about Lalita’s interest and wants to contact her in the future. Here’s how this all plays out:

• Theo: “This was a lot of fun. Can I get your number?”
• Lalita: “I’d love to give you my number. But first, mind if I ask why?”

PAUSE: At this point in the conversation, Lalita is keeping a sweet, feminine tone and is smiling the whole time. She’s being a little cheeky and a little challenging, but most importantly, she’s creating an opportunity for Theo to make his intentions a little clear. In a best-case scenario, Theo would say, “I was hoping we could do this again sometime. I’d love to ask you out in the near future.” But, let’s be real. Unless he’s quite self-assured and seasoned when it comes to meeting women, chances are he’s not going to be this forthright. Even if Theo isn’t the most romantically forthright or suave guy, there’s still hope for him and Lalita. Let’s see where this goes…

• Theo: “Well, I like hanging out with you. I was hoping we could do it again sometime.”
• Lalita: “I’d like that a lot. Here’s my number… Feel free to call me. But you’d better ask me out.”

During this exchange, Lalita shoots him a playful wink and a beguiling smile as she speaks. While her words convey her expectations of him, the playful inflections in her voice and her flirty eyes will ensure that he gets her cheekiness and can’t help but find her irresistibly charming. Of course, if you’re not as audacious or flirty in person as Lalita might be, you can still get your point across without sending the wrong message or turning your handsome admirer off. It’s all about maintaining a warm, playful tone while cleverly conveying what kind of outcome you’re expecting after giving him your phone number.

Here are a few more fun and sassy responses that any man could appreciate when he asks for your number:

• Him: “Can I get your number?”
• You: “Sure. I’d be happy to give you my number, so long as I get to see you again.”

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• Him: “Can I get your number?”
• You: “I’d be happy to give you my number. Just promise me you’re not one of those guys who likes texting girls but never asks them out.”

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• Him: “Can I get your number?”
• You: “I’d be happy to give you my number. Just don’t be a tease, okay? Feel free to call me, and you’d better ask me out.”

Naturally, even the cheekiest of those responses should be done in a fun, light-hearted, and laid-back way with a sweet and soft feminine tone. If he’s really into you, he’ll get the picture and will JUMP at the chance to see you again. Men love confident women. Yes, it’s almost cliché by now, but it’s still true. The fact that you gave him your number and flirtatiously set your “rules of engagement” will make him even more enthusiastic about calling or texting you with concrete plans for a future rendezvous.

“But what if he doesn’t call or text me”, you ask? Doesn’t matter. It’s his loss. You did everything you could within your power to make yourself appear fun, approachable, and high-value. Trust me, the only guys who won’t follow through are the ones who weren’t that interested to begin with; guys who would have texted you endlessly, wasting the precious time you could have been using to date more interested suitors.